Relax, It's Just God


** Gold-medal winner of 2017 Next Generation Book Award and silver-medal winner of 2016 Independent Publishers Book Award **

A rapidly growing demographic cohort in America, non-religious and progressively religious parents are at the forefront of a major and unprecedented cultural shift. Unable to fall back on what they were taught as children, many of these parents are struggling — or simply failing — to address issues of God, religion and faith with their children in ways that promote honesty, curiosity, kindness and independence.

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Relax, It’s Just God: How and Why to Talk to Your Kids About Religion When You’re Not Religious

The author sifts through hard data — including the results of a survey of 1,000 secular parents — and delivers gentle but straightforward advice to atheists, agnostics, humanists and open-minded believers. With a thoughtful voice infused with humor, Russell seamlessly merges scientific thought, scholarly research and everyday experience with respect for a full range of ways to view the world.

Relax, It's Just God goes beyond the numbers to assist parents (and grandparents) who may be struggling to find the right time place, tone and language with which to talk about God, spirituality and organized religion. It encourages parents to promote religious literacy and understanding and to support kids as they explore religion on their own — ensuring that each child makes up his or her own mind about what to believe (or not believe) and extends love and respect to those who may not agree with them.

Subjects covered include:

  1. Talking openly about our beliefs without indoctrinating kids

  2. Making religious literacy fun and engaging

  3. Talking about death without the comforts of heaven

  4. Navigating religious differences with extended family members

  5. What to do when kids get threatened with hell

"If I were to take it upon myself to create a new publication, on the first day I would hire Wendy Thomas Russell, and on the second day I would rest." 
— Tim Grobaty, author, I’m Dyin’ Here: A Life in the Paper“In this gem of a book, journalist Russell explores religion from a nonreligious perspective, helping parents guide their children in a healthy, exploration-oriented direction without guilt, dogma, or indifference.... This singular book with a clean style and respectful approach is recommended for all libraries.” 
Library Journal (starred review)

"Written for secular parents from a nonreligious perspective, this guide explores methods of teaching youngsters about God, religion and spirituality... Contains a wealth of information for secular or mixed-religion families preparing for the God talk with kids." 
— Kirkus Reviews

"Relax, It's Just God is a thought-provoking entry in the expanding category of secular parenting advice." 
— The Humanist Magazine

"Wendy is a strong, funny, articulate new voice in secular parenting." 
— Dale McGowan, author and editor, Parenting Beyond Belief: On Raising Ethical, Caring Kids Without Religion

"If only we all could have a mother with the approach to religious literacy described in Relax Its Just God. Wendy Thomas Russell conducted a fascinating survey of parents for this important book, and the results deserve wide discussion... 'Relax It's Just God' is a friendly and wise and highly readable guide to teaching children about religion so they can respond with openness and intelligence." 
— Robert Tulip,

"An eminently frank, personal, honest, and informative exploration of how to approach religion and secularism with your children. Rich with sociological data, engaging case studies, and a plethora of helpful techniques and strategies, this thoughtful book should be warmly welcomed by that growing population of Americans who are raising their kids without religious faith or involvement." 
— Phil Zuckerman, author of Living the Secular Life: New Answers to Old Questions

"Wendy Thomas Russell never shies from the big questions. Her fresh, funny take on non-religious parenting is a much-needed addition to the secular landscape, and her book is an invaluable resource for parents who are raising kids without religion." 
— Katherine Ozment, author, Grace Without God: The Search for Meaning, Purpose & Belonging in a Secular Age

"'Relax: It's Just God' is valuable for so many reasons. The book offers helpful timelines for how to talk to kids about religion at every age and includes a handy appendix with the Cliffs Notes version of each major religion of the world, along with ways to observe their holidays in a secular way. The book's full of useful tools that you and your kids can use when confronted by religious peers and well-meaning family members.Best of all, it handles a potentially heavy topic with a lighthearted sense of humor, giving the reader the sense that we really can relax about it." 
— True Parent Magazine

"Since first encountering her work, I have been ceaselessly impressed by Wendy's dedication to showing non-religious and religious parents alike a more compassionate way to approach religious differences. Hers is a vital voice in the world today." 
— Chris Stedman, author of Faitheist: How and Atheist Found Common Ground with the Religious

"One of the best things I've read in years." 
— Karen Loethen, co-host of The Secular Parents Broadcast

"Wendy is remarkably versatile, expert at explaining the inexplicable (say,God), compassionate, refreshingly effortless with language, tireless in her investigations and research and, finally, a joy to read. If I were to take it upon myself to create a new publication, on the first day I would hire Wendy Thomas Russell, and on the second day I would rest." 
— Tim Grobaty, author, I’m Dyin’ Here: A Life in the Paper